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      Should I Let My Teen Watch 13 Reasons Why?   When Netflix released 13 Reasons Why in 2017, the show was met with a slew of controversy. The story takes place in the weeks following the suicide of a high school student named Hannah Baker. The series follows her peers as they unravel her story by listening to 13 tape recordings she left behind. Each tape details how different people in her life contributed to her choice to end her life. Many praised the series for shedding light on serious topics that society critically needs to address. Others felt that it romanticized suicide and would encourage vulnerable viewers toward self-harm.   How do I know if my child can handle it?    While most experts can see both pros and cons to the show, allowing your child to watch it should be a personal decision based on your child’s emotional maturity and mental well-being.   13 Reasons Why is not for everyone, so our specialists have developed these questions to help you decide whether or not to let your child view it:    1. Does my child want to watch it?   If your child hasn’t expressed any interest in viewing 13 Reasons Why, experts don’t believe parents should encourage it. While it’s important to discuss topics such as suicide, mental health, and sexual assault with your child, there are healthier ways to approach these topics than exposing them to the show’s graphic violence. If your child has expressed an interest in viewing the show, ask yourself the following questions before allowing them to do so.   2. Has my child been diagnosed with a mental illness?    If your child has been diagnosed with a mental illness, such as bipolar disorder, depression, or anxiety, it’s best to not allow them to watch 13 Reasons Why. Even if they have received treatment and their symptoms appear to be stabilized, the themes and images presented in the show may trigger previously harmful thoughts and emotions. Another thing to consider is that suicide has a genetic component; if mental illness and suicide run in your family, it may be wise to avoid letting your child watch the show.   3. What’s been going on in my child’s life lately?   Whether or not your child has a mental illness, consider any stressful or traumatic events that your child may have been exposed to in recent months. Did they move or change schools? Have they witnessed any violence? Did a loved one die? The story line in 13 Reasons Why shows Hannah resorting to self-harm after a series of traumatic events. If your child has recently gone through a difficult time, it is probably not a good time for them to view this series.   4. Can I commit to watching it with my child?    The National Association of Suicide Prevention recommends that children watch the show with a trusted adult. This will enable open communication about the series and will also help you control the rate at which your child watches it. If you’ve ever binge-watched a show with British actors, you may have noticed that after 5 or 6 episodes in, your thoughts start taking on a British accent. Even if your child is emotionally healthy, consuming several hours of the show at once can contribute to increased thoughts surrounding death, self-harm, and suicide.   5. What are their “resiliency resources”?   Resiliency refers to a person’s ability to recover from difficulties. While most people experience depression or trauma at some point in life, those who die by suicide tend to have a very low perception of self-resiliency. Before allowing your child to watch the show, consider their attitude and resources surrounding resiliency. Some questions to ask yourself are:    Does our family openly communicate?    Does my child have high self-esteem?    Is my child well connected with peers and school resources?    What are my child’s religious beliefs about suicide and coping with difficulty?    Does my child have adaptive coping skills? (Do they tend to “roll with the punches” when times get tough, or do they find it hard to adjust when challenges arise?)    Does our family have access to mental health and medical resources?     6. Will I investigate the show’s inaccuracies?    Because there are several aspects of the show that may be perceived in inaccurate or harmful ways, parents should discuss those issues to help their children shed light on the truth. For example, the show gives the sense that Hannah is receiving resolution in death through her tapes that detail how the people she left behind did her wrong. The truth is, when a person dies by suicide there is no resolution. There is no revenge. They don’t get to see the reactions of others after they are gone. They don’t feel a sense of justice or peace. For a helpful resource on concerning inaccuracies in the show,   check out this letter   written by school psychology experts to Netflix and the show’s producers:   7. Am I aware of suicide warning signs?   Before allowing your child to watch 13 Reasons Why, you should familiarize yourself with common red flags of suicide. If your child exhibits any of these symptoms before, during, or after watching the series, you should immediately stop allowing them to view it:    Giving away prized possessions    Behavioral changes – I.e. – withdrawal, increased disciplinary incidents at school, etc.    Changes in their appearance, self-care, or hygiene    Major mood fluctuations (this could include someone that is usually sad acting extremely happy)    Changes in grades and school performance    Preoccupation with death in conversations, social media, drawings, or writings    Suicidal threats – either direct threats such as, “I want to kill myself,” or indirect threats such as, “I want to fall asleep and never wake up ”     8. Do I know how to respond to warning signs?    A major criticism of the show has been its portrayal of adults being untrustworthy and incompetent in supporting their kids. Before allowing your child to watch the show, educate yourself on ways to help children that exhibit possible warning signs. If you have concerns about your child’s mental health, here are a few tips for supporting them:    Listen while remaining calm and nonjudgmental    Ask them directly if they’ve considered suicide    Do not minimize their pain (avoid phrases like, “you need to get over it,” or, “this wouldn’t have happened if you would have listened to me in the first place”)    Keep your comments focused on their well-being    Reassure your child that help is available and you are committed to getting them the support they need    Validate their feelings, but assure them that they will not feel this way forever    Do not let your child be left unsupervised    Remove possible tools for self-harm such as firearms, knives, belts, ropes, razor blades, or medications    Get help immediately – never agree to keep their suicidal thoughts a secret     Variations can help        
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              The purpose of this article is to provide an overview of the highlighted topic. For a full consultation, assessment, and personalized treatment plan, schedule an appointment with one of our specialists.    More about Variations Psychology   Variations Psychology is a group practice specializing in Child and Family Psychology.  Our specialists provide therapy to infants, children, adolescents, and adults to help them overcome the many challenges they may face throughout the lifespan of a family. We also conduct diagnostic testing of child and adult conditions that may impact the family’s mental health and development (e.g. ADHD, Autism, Depression, Anxiety, Learning Disorders, college entrance exams). See our   Specialists   page to select the specialist that best suits your need, or simply give us a   call   and we will guide you.  Variations Psychology is located in Newport Beach, CA and provides counseling to residents throughout Orange County and its surrounding areas including Newport Beach, Newport Coast, Irvine, Shady Canyon, Laguna Beach, Laguna Hills, Coto de Caza, Corona del Mar, Costa Mesa, Yorba Linda, Dana Point, Laguna Niguel, Aliso Viejo, Mission Viejo, Pelican Hill, Crystal Cove, Rancho Santa Margarita, San Clemente, Lake Forest, Huntington Beach, Sunset Beach, Seal Beach, and more.      
  
       References:   https://www.schoolcounselor.org/school-counselors/professional-development/learn-more/13-reasons-why-resources  https://www.nasponline.org/resources-and-publications/resources/school-safety-and-crisis/preventing-youth-suicide/13-reasons-why-netflix-series-considerations-for-educators/information-regarding-the-upcoming-release-of-13-reasons-why-season-2  http://www.nasponline.org/resources-and-publications/resources/school-safety-and-crisis/preventing-youth-suicide/13-reasons-why-netflix-series-considerations-for-educators/13-reasons-why-netflix-series-considerations-for-educators   How to Cite This Blog Article:   Shinn, M.M. (2018). Should I Let My Teen Watch 13 Reasons Why?   Psychologically Speaking .   [Variations Psychology blog post].  Retrieved from https://www.variationspsychology.com/blogs/should-i-let-my-teen-watch-13-reasons-why

Should I Let My Teen Watch 13 Reasons Why?

When Netflix released 13 Reasons Why in 2017, the show was met with a slew of controversy. The story takes place in the weeks following the suicide of a high school student named Hannah Baker. The series follows her peers as they unravel her story by listening to 13 tape recordings she left behind. Each tape details how different people in her life contributed to her choice to end her life. Many praised the series for shedding light on serious topics that society critically needs to address. Others felt that it romanticized suicide and would encourage vulnerable viewers toward self-harm.

How do I know if my child can handle it?