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      Top 8 Ways for New Moms to Bond with Baby   Across the animal kingdom, there’s no bond quite like that between a mother and her baby. Whether it’s a mama cat saving her kitten from a burning house, a mother bird instinctively knowing how to feed her chicks, or a woman feeling her child’s pain as if it were her own, moms are connected to their kids in ways that exceed understanding. But bonding isn’t fixed or instant; bonding is a process that strengthens over time as moms and children learn more about each other and build loving, trusting relationships.    So what can mamas do to strengthen the bond with their new babies?    1. Bond over books     It doesn’t matter that your baby doesn’t understand the characters or plot twists in the you books you read. The sound of your voice will provide them with comfort and security while stimulating their growing minds. Immersing your child in a world of words will help them gain communication skills, boost their language development, and make them feel closer to you.      2. Sooth with songs     You don’t need to sing like Adele for your voice to work magic: research has shown that a mother’s singing can reduce her baby’s stress, increase healthy weight gain, and even shorten NICU stays for babies who require hospitalization. Make it a routine to sing to your baby as you rock them to sleep after bath. Over time, your daily ritual will be something your baby looks forward to and will build sweet memories for both of you.      3. Crank up your “cuddle chemical”     The more skin-to-skin contact you have with your baby, the more your body will produce a hormone called oxytocin, which is also known as the “love hormone” or “cuddle chemical.” Oxytocin increases feelings of calm, pleasure, and closeness toward your baby. Practice “kangaroo care” by frequently keeping your naked or partially dressed baby close to your skin throughout the day. The scent and touch of one another will fill you both with joy.     Concerned that the bond with your baby isn’t developing the way it should be? Click below for a free 15 minute consultation with one of our Specialists      


   
     
      
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      4. Feed with love     Mealtime is one of the best opportunities for bonding with your baby. Nourishing your baby builds your confidence as a mom and teaches your baby that they can rely on you for their needs. Whether your baby is fed by breast or bottle, caressing their face, making eye contact, and holding them close to the rhythm of your heartbeat will strengthen your connection.      5. Respond to cues      It’s important to respond to your baby’s cries in the first months of life; you’re not spoiling them by doing so – you’re making them feel safe and teaching them how to manage difficult feelings. It’s never too early to show your baby healthy ways to calm their body down     by practicing deep breathing, rhythmically rocking them, humming, and using calm words.    Is your baby’s emotional development on track?    Click here    to find out     6. Bond through movement     Moms of ancient civilizations didn’t get to enjoy many of our modern conveniences: drive-thru coffee shops, diaper genies, or mommy-and-me-yoga classes. While baby-centric exercise may seem like a luxury, research supports that it increases bonding and makes new parents more comfortable with holding their vulnerable babies. There are also plenty of free ways to bond through movement including:      Giving your baby a loving massage to relax their muscle and increase circulation    Moving their legs in a bicycle motion during diaper changes    Laying on your stomach to face them during their tummy time – this prompts them to lift their head to see you, strengthening their neck and core muscles    Praising your baby as they learn to bounce on supportive surfaces such as your lap     Doing “baby sit ups” as your baby becomes able to support their own neck and head. Hold your baby’s forearms and gently pull them up and down on a soft surface, giving them a smile or kiss each time they come up      Click here    to learn about the benefits of active play as your child grows       7. Don’t be hard on yourself     Bonding is an individual process that grows over time, so don’t feel guilty if it doesn’t happen instantaneously for you. It can be tough to feel connected to a baby when you’ve just met them and are adjusting to the many changes of motherhood. Be patient with yourself and trust that in time, the bond between you and your baby will be unbreakable.       8. Get support     There are a number of issues that can present challenges for mothers and babies to bond such as:      Unplanned pregnancy    Postpartum depression    Lack of support    Health issues    Attachment disorders    Autism spectrum disorder    Adoptive or step parenting    Whatever your family’s situation, our specialists can help you build a loving bond between you and your baby.         
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              The purpose of this article is to provide an overview of the highlighted topic. For a full consultation, assessment, and personalized treatment plan, schedule an appointment  with one of our specialists.   More about Variations Psychology   Variations Psychology is a group practice specializing in Child and Family Psychology.  Our specialists provide therapy to infants, children, adolescents, and adults to help them overcome the many challenges they may face throughout the lifespan of a family. We also conduct diagnostic testing of child and adult conditions that may impact the family’s mental health and development (e.g. ADHD, Autism Depression, Anxiety, Learning Disorders, college entrance exams, graduate and professional licensing exams such as MCAT, LSAT, GRE, CBEST, NCLEX, GMAT, CA Cosmetology Exam, CA Contractors State Licensing Exam, and CA Bar Exam).  See our     Specialists   page to select the specialist that best suits your need, or simply give us a call and we will guide you..  Variations Psychology is located in Newport Beach, CA and provides counseling to residents throughout Orange County and its surrounding areas including Newport Beach, Newport Coast, Irvine, Shady Canyon, Laguna Beach, Laguna Hills, Coto de Caza, Corona del Mar, Costa Mesa, Yorba Linda, Dana Point, Laguna Niguel, Aliso Viejo, Mission Viejo, Pelican Hill, Crystal Cove, Rancho Santa Margarita, San Clemente, Lake Forest, Huntington Beach, Sunset Beach, Seal Beach, and more.      
  
       References:   Blakemore, C.J. & Ramirez, B.W. (2006).  Baby Read Aloud Basics . New York, Harper Collins.   Blumenfeld, H., & Eisenfeld, L. (2006). Does a Mother Singing to her Premature Baby Affect Feeding in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit?  Clinical Pediatrics ,  45 (1), 65–70. https://doi.org/10.1177/000992280604500110  Bonding an Attachment: Newborns. (2019).  Raisingchildren.net.au . Retrieved from https://raisingchildren.net.au/newborns/connecting-communicating/bonding/bonding-newborns  Moburg, K.U., Prime, D.K. (2013). Oxytocin effects in mothers and infants during breastfeeding.  Infant  9,(6). Retrieved from http://www.infantjournal.co.uk/pdf/inf_054_ers.pdf  Parker, D.G. (2000).  Yoga Baby: Exercises to Help You Bond with Your Baby Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually.  New York, Broadway Books.   Passell, L. (2019). 12 Ways to Bond with Your Baby.  Parenting Magazine.  Retrieved from https://www.parenting.com/article/12-ways-to-bond-with-your-baby  Reece, T. (2018). 4 Exercises to Help Baby Get Stronger.  Parents . Retrieved from https://www.parents.com/baby/development/physical/your-babys-hand-control/  Shinn. M.M. (2018). Am I an Emotionally Intelligent Parent? 6 Tips for Moms and Dads to Boost Their EQ.  Psychologically Speaking.  [Variations Psychology blog post]. Retrieved from  https://www.variationspsychology.com/blogs/am-i-an-emotionally-intelligent-parent-6-tips-for-moms-dads-to-boost-their-eq   Shinn, M.M. (2019). Get Moving! 10 Reasons to Engage Your Kids in Active Play.  Psychologically Speaking . [Variations Psychology blog post].  Retrieved from  https://www.variationspsychology.com/blogs/get-moving-10-reasons-to-engage-your-kids-in-active-play   Shinn. M.M. (2019). Is My Baby’s Emotional Intelligence on Track?  Psychologically Speaking.  [Variations Psychology blog post]. Retrieved from  https://www.variationspsychology.com/blogs/is-my-babys-emotional-intelligence-on-track   Vaglio S. (2009). Chemical communication and mother-infant recognition.  Communicative & integrative biology ,  2 (3), 279–281.  Wusthoff, C.J. (2019) Movement Milestones: Birth to 3 Months.  Healthychildren.org . Retrieved from https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/baby/Pages/Movement-Birth-to-Three-Months.aspx    How to Cite This Blog Article:    Shinn. M.M. (2019). The Magical Bond of Mothers: 8 Ways to Connect with Your New Baby.  Psychologically Speaking.  [Variations Psychology blog post]. Retrieved from  https://www.variationspsychology.com/blogs/top-8-ways-for-new-moms-to-bond-with-baby

Top 8 Ways for New Moms to Bond with Baby

Happy Mother’s Day to all you wonderful moms out there! There’s no bond quite like that between a mother and her baby. Check out our Mother’s Day blog on 8 ways for moms to bond with their new babies.

     

  

    
       
      
         
          
             
                  
             
          

          

         
      
       
    

  


      Words of Wisdom from Famous Mothers: A Celebration of Mom’s Impact on Mental Health   It’s no secret that mothers have an immeasurable impact on our psychological development. While psychology has only been widely studied since the late 1800’s, mothers have been guided by meaningful wisdom and instincts since the dawn of time. In honor of Mother’s Day, here are some quotes from famous moms over the past few centuries, illustrating the many ways a mother’s wisdom shapes our mental health.   “A mother is one to whom you hurry when you are troubled.” Emily Dickinson, Author   Whether they have a psych degree or not, moms are our very first therapist. They help us wrap our mind around tough concepts like the death of a loved one or a friend moving away. They console us when we cry, empower us when we feel inadequate, and encourage us when we face uncertainty. Whether it be skinned knees during childhood, ugly breakups as teenagers, or career troubles in adulthood, mom is an unwavering fortress of love and support.   “She raised us with humor, and she raised us to understand that not everything was going to be great but how to laugh through it.” Liza Minnelli, Actress    Mothers are our first example of how to manage emotions; the way we see how our moms manage grief, anger, and stress strongly impacts how we cope with these emotions ourselves. Mothers offer calming comfort when we are dealing with challenges that feel unmanageable. They offer assurance and help us to find humor, hope, and positivity during the ups and downs throughout each stage of life.   "I looked on child rearing not only as a work of love and duty but as a profession that was fully as interesting and challenging as any honorable profession in the world and one that demanded the best I could bring to it." Rose Kennedy, Socialite & Philanthropist    Though it might not offer a salary or 401K, the profession of motherhood requires critical thinking, unwavering dedication, and being “on call” 24/7. In addition to the full-time job of tending to the family’s basic needs, mothers are critically influential on their child’s intellectual growth. Mrs. Kennedy also said, “Children should be stimulated by their parents to see, touch, know, understand, and appreciate.” Mothers study their child’s strengths and challenges and provide stimulating activities to help their minds develop.   "I don’t think empathy is something you can drill in someone's head. You have to have faith that while your kids can seem to be selfish and concerned only about the word 'mine' sometimes, overall, they are watching you really carefully, and if you care about other people, they will too." Jennifer Garner, Actress   Mothers not only impact our intellectual growth, but also our emotional intelligence and character development. They teach conflict resolution, sacrifice, morality, and compassion. These lessons are imprinted on a child throughout their life. The way that mothers cultivate our character not only impacts future relationships with friends, co-workers, and romantic interests, but also influences the lessons we pass down to future generations.   "At work, you think of the children you have left at home. At home, you think of the work you've left unfinished. Such a struggle is unleashed within yourself. Your heart is rent." Golda Meir, former Prime Minister of Israel   As maddening as it may feel for moms to try to juggle it all, mothers teach us responsibility, persistence, and balance – all key elements in successfully managing adult obligations. Cultivating her interests while tending to the needs of her family isn’t easy, but her work ethic and persistence help to ingrain her child’s values and priorities.   "We don’t have a really constructive or positive view of disability around the world. But what would happen if the doctor said to you, instead of these ridiculously heartbreaking predictions, ‘Look, this is the greatest gift you’re going to be given,'" Laura San Giacomo, Actress and mother of child with cerebral palsy   No two children are exactly alike in personality or abilities, and it’s challenging for all moms to figure out the best ways to support each child. Mothers of children with special needs are an exceptional type of warrior – not only do they have to become experts on the disability their child struggles with, they must help their child reach their potential while overcoming discrimination and ignorance. They work to educate others against stigmas, empower their child to surpass expectations, and advocate for understanding and inclusion.   "[My adopted son] is definitely all mine. Little souls find their way to you whether they're from your womb or someone else's." Sheryl Crow, Musician    As we celebrate the way mothers impact our mental health, it’s important to note that the psychological bond between a mother and her child is not limited to those who are biologically connected. Adoptive moms, step-moms, aunts, or other maternal figures can share the same immense bond, unconditional love, and critical guidance that benefit the children they love.   "Don't beat yourself up for making decisions about things that may or may not work. [Motherhood] is an experiment in life and you're a part of that." Lucy Liu, Actress   Something that we don’t celebrate enough is that moms teach us how to deal with failure, because let’s face it, we all screw up! Maybe you are prone to dropping F-bombs when you stub your toe, or maybe you spend a little too much time glued to your smart phone. Whatever the case, no mom is perfect, and that’s ok. Great moms teach us that it’s alright to mess up sometimes. Their ability to take responsibility and be resilient through failure is a great trait to model to children. These lessons help their children remain resilient and self-assured when they face failure and mistakes.   "A good mother loves fiercely but ultimately brings up her children to thrive without her. They must be the most important thing in her life, but if she is the most important thing in theirs, she has failed." Erin Kelly, Journalist    Mothers teach us the necessary skills to function independently as adults. From using a zipper and tying shoes to preparing meals or writing resumes, great mothers instill critical life skills that allow children to grow into competent and self-sufficient adults. These skills impact a person’s self-image, confidence, and coping skills that impact long-term success and emotional well-being.   "Most of all the other beautiful things in life come by twos and threes by dozens and hundreds. Plenty of roses, stars, sunsets, rainbows, brothers, and sisters, aunts and cousins, but only one mother in the whole world." Kate Douglas Wiggin, Author   As we reflect on the importance of mothers in our lives this Mother’s Day, we remember how important moms are to our mental health and life success from the day we are born to every day after.   From all the specialists at Variations Psychology, thank you to all the mothers out there for your hard work, monumental love, and unwavering dedication.   Being a mom is hard work, and sometimes moms just need someone to turn to when life starts to feel unmanageable. Whether you are a mom who is struggling to connect with your children or spouse, or if you are dealing with issues such as depression, stress, or anxiety, our specialists can help.      
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              The purpose of this article is to provide an overview of the highlighted topic. For a full consultation, assessment, and personalized treatment plan, schedule an appointment with one of our specialists.   More about Variations Psychology   Variations Psychology is a group practice specializing in Child and Family Psychology.  Our specialists provide therapy to infants, children, adolescents, and adults to help them overcome the many challenges they may face throughout the lifespan of a family. We also conduct diagnostic testing of child and adult conditions that may impact the family’s mental health and development (e.g. ADHD, Autism, Depression, Anxiety, Learning Disorders, college entrance exams). See our   Specialists   page to select the specialist that best suits your need, or simply give us a   call   and we will guide you.  Variations Psychology is located in Newport Beach, CA and provides counseling to residents throughout Orange County and its surrounding areas including Newport Beach, Newport Coast, Irvine, Shady Canyon, Laguna Beach, Laguna Hills, Coto de Caza, Corona del Mar, Costa Mesa, Yorba Linda, Dana Point, Laguna Niguel, Aliso Viejo, Mission Viejo, Pelican Hill, Crystal Cove, Rancho Santa Margarita, San Clemente, Lake Forest, Huntington Beach, Sunset Beach, Seal Beach, and more.      
  
       References :  Goldsmith, B. (2013). Top 10 Reasons Why Moms are Important.  Psychology Today.  Retrieved Online: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201305/top-10-reasons-why-moms-are-important  Mother’s Personality Can Impact Mental Health. https://neurosciencenews.com/mental-health-mother-personality-6843/  Staats-Reiss, N. (2018). Mother’s Influence on Psychological and Physical Health Extends to Old Age.  MentalHealth.net.  Retrieved online: https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/mother-s-influence-on-psychological-and-physical-health-extends-to-old-age/   How to Cite This Blog Article:   Shinn, M.M. (2018). Words of Wisdom from Famous Mothers: A Celebration of Mom’s Impact on Mental   Health.  Psychologically Speaking .  [Variations Psychology blog post].  Retrieved from https://www.variationspsychology.com/blogs/words-of-wisdom-from-famous-mothers-a-celebration-of-moms-impact-on-mental-health

Words of Wisdom from Famous Mothers: A Celebration of Mom’s Impact on Mental Health

It’s no secret that mothers have an immeasurable impact on our psychological development. While psychology has only been widely studied since the late 1800’s, mothers have been guided by meaningful wisdom and instincts since the dawn of time. In honor of Mother’s Day, here are some quotes from famous moms over the past few centuries, illustrating the many ways a mother’s wisdom shapes our mental health.