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      “Is My Baby’s Emotional Intelligence On Track?”    Let’s face it, it’s tough trying to figure out how your baby is feeling. It’s not like your 2-month-old can calmly explain, “Mom, I really don’t appreciate when you wipe my tush with those freezing cold wipes. Please use the wipe warmer moving forward.” No, instead you’re met with flailing limbs and blood-curdling screams as you desperately try to figure out why your baby’s ticked off. Though you may feel like a deer in headlights deciphering your baby’s emotions, the way you support their emotional intelligence (EQ) during their first year sets the foundation for their lifelong emotional health.    So now that we’ve laid the pressure on thick, let’s dive into  how  you can support your baby’s EQ, even when you have no clue what they’re feeling.     1. Mark their emotional milestones   The first step in supporting your child’s emotional management is understanding how a baby’s EQ typically develops. The average milestone pattern is as follows:   0-3 Months  – They express whatever emotions they’re feeling in the moment without understanding them. All they know is they are either feeling pleasure or displeasure and when they are displeased, they make sure their parents know it!   Month 3  – Your baby will make eye contact, develop more facial expressions, and start to show pleasure by smiling. They may find ways to briefly soothe themselves such as closing their eyes or thumb sucking.    Month 4  – Their showing of emotions intensifies and they’ll begin to copy your facial expressions. They’ll also recognize when they’re having fun and may cry when playing stops.   Month 5  – They become increasingly assertive and begin to decipher between family members and strangers.    Month 6  – They tend to be a bit moodier; you may notice they are happy and clapping one minute and having a raging fit the next. Gotta keep you on your toes mom & dad!   Month 7  – At this point your baby realizes you aren’t attached to them - a revelation that gives birth to a new feeling: fear. This is often when separation anxiety kicks in. They also start to pick up on social referencing, or being able to understand how others feel by looking at their faces and gestures.    8-11 months  – Your baby is becoming more aware of others’ feelings and may feel guilt when they’ve done something wrong. Separation anxiety peaks during this time, but your baby will also begin to display independence as they learn to crawl and walk.    12 months – Toddlers feel an increased need to assert their independence which leads to, you guessed it, tantrums! Since their language development is increasing dramatically, this is a great time to teach your toddler to label their emotions.    2. Embrace their wiring    The development of your child’s EQ is based on 3 factors: their brain development, their life experiences, and their temperament. At around 6 months, your baby’s temperament will become increasingly apparent. If your child is more anxious, sensitive, or hot-tempered than you’d like them to be, it’s important that you learn to accept them for who they are and not try to force them to change. Instead, focus your efforts on teaching them ways to cope with strong emotions regardless of their temperament.    3. Have 1-sided convos   Just because your baby isn’t talking yet doesn’t mean they don’t gain a lot from listening to you. It’s never too early to start talking to your baby about feelings. Make it a habit to label your emotions during everyday life so that they become familiar with what each feeling is called.   Examples: (Baby cries when Grandma leaves). Mom: “I understand, you’re feeling sad that Grandma is leaving. I’m sad Grandma’s leaving too.”   4. Encourage Empathy   A key factor of emotional intelligence is not just understanding our own emotions, but being able to recognize the feelings of others. Model empathy by bringing up others’ feelings during daily interactions and play.   Example:  “Teddy bear is sitting all by himself. He must feel lonely. Let’s go play with him.”   Have older kids too?    Check out our blog on fostering EQ in children and teens     5. Troubleshoot tantrums   Pay attention to your child’s body language  before  they enter full meltdown mode – do they shake, turn red, or clench their fists? When you notice your child steering toward the tantrum-turnpike, intervene by giving a calming touch or offering a fun distraction. This will set the foundation for learning to calm themselves down before their feelings escalate and get out of hand.    6. Model good management   The best way to show your baby how to manage emotions is to demonstrate it yourself. Whether your feelings are positive or negative, make a point to show your child healthy ways to express them.   Examples:   “I am feeling frustrated right now so I am going to close my eyes and focus on my breathing for a minute.”   “I’m feeling so excited that Titi Marta is going to be here in five minutes! Let’s do a dance together until she gets here!”   Are you a high EQ parent?    Click here    to find out!    7. Identify EQ problems   While babies progress at different rates, it’s important to know when their behaviors may be pointing to developmental problems. If your baby exhibits any of the following symptoms, their emotional growth might not be on track for their age:      Frequent anxiety or anger    Sleep problems    Refusal to eat    Lethargy    Extreme fear of new situations     Lack of motivation to try new things       


   
     
      
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       References:   Alegre, A. (2011). Parenting Styles and Children’s Emotional Intelligence: What do We Know?  The Family Journal ,  19 (1), 56–62. https://doi.org/10.1177/1066480710387486  Baby Sparks (2017). The Evolution of Emotions (Part 1): Your Baby’s First Year. https://babysparks.com/2017/10/12/the-evolution-of-emotions-part-1-your-babys-first-year/  Brouzos, A., Misailidi, P., & Hadjimattheou, A. (2014). Associations Between Emotional Intelligence, Socio-Emotional Adjustment, and Academic Achievement in Childhood: The Influence of Age.  Canadian Journal of School Psychology ,  29 (2), 83–99. https://doi.org/10.1177/0829573514521976  Harvard University (2011). Children’s Emotional Development is Built into the Architecture of Their Brains. Center on the Developing Child.  National Scientific Council on the Developing Child.  Retrieved online: http://46y5eh11fhgw3ve3ytpwxt9r.wpengine.netdna-cdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2004/04/Childrens-Emotional-Development-Is-Built-into-the-Architecture-of-Their-Brains.pdf  Shinn. M.M. (2018). “Am I an Emotionally Intelligent Parent?” 6 Tips for Moms and Dads to Boost their EQ.  Psychologically Speaking.  [Variations Psychology blog post]. Retrieved from: https://www.variationspsychology.com/blogs/am-i-an-emotionally-intelligent-parent-6-tips-for-moms-dads-to-boost-their-eq  Shinn. M.M. (2018). 5 Tips for Raising Emotionally Intelligent Children.  Psychologically Speaking.  [Variations Psychology blog post]. Retrieved from: https://www.variationspsychology.com/blogs/5-tips-for-raising-emotionally-intelligent-children    How to Cite this Article:    Shinn. M.M. (2019). “Is My Baby’s Emotional Intelligence On Track?”  Psychologically Speaking.  [Variations Psychology blog post]. Retrieved from :    https://www.variationspsychology.com/blogs/is-my-babys-emotional-intelligence-on-track    

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      “Am I an Emotionally Intelligent Parent?” 6 Tips for Moms & Dads to Boost their EQ   Emotional intelligence (EQ) refers to one’s ability to understand, process, and manage their emotions in healthy ways. We all want children who are emotionally intelligent – kids that don’t bite your arm when they can’t get their way, teens that don’t sulk in their room instead of talking to you, or adult children that don’t quit their jobs every time a co-worker offends them. But sometimes as parents we have to take a step back and evaluate our own EQ – are we quick to yell, hit, or say things we don’t mean when we feel upset? Are there emotions that we’re ashamed to talk to our kids about?    The truth is, the best way that you can support your child’s emotional intelligence is by building up your own. So how can parents strengthen their EQ?     1. Label your feelings   The first part of emotional intelligence is being able to acknowledge and accept your emotions. You’ll be a lot more effective in working through tough feelings if you understand what you’re dealing with. Take a few moments each day to think about what feelings you are experiencing, whether they are good, bad, or somewhere in between.      2. Don’t judge yourself   Parents often judge themselves for feeling stressed, depressed, or angry. However, difficult feelings can be an opportunity to teach emotional management. When you are feeling at your wit’s end, don’t beat yourself up over it. The way you handle troubling emotions can teach your children how to manage difficult feelings in healthy ways. Acknowledging your feelings without judgement shows your children that there are no emotions that are too shameful to talk about.   Example : “I’m feeling really anxious about work today. I am going to go for a jog to help me release some stress.”   3. Consider your kid’s perspective   You probably don’t remember the first time you got a brain freeze from a popsicle, but can you imagine the horror you must have felt not knowing what that paralyzing shock was? Now that you’re an adult, you know that brain freezes, though unpleasant, are not the end of the world. Big emotions, such as anger, jealousy, pain, and grief can feel like a “first brain freeze,” to children. So the next time you’re about to “cancel Christmas if they don’t stop screaming,” remember that things that don’t feel big to you often feel like a very big deal to them.      4. Express empathy   Whether your child is expressing joy, frustration, or anything in between, show them that you understand. An emotionally intelligent parent focuses more on discussing their child’s feelings rather than criticizing their behaviors.    Example of focusing on child’s behavior:   “Stop whining about how stressed you are – you were the one who wanted to sign up for both dance and soccer.”    Example of focusing on child’s feelings (emotionally intelligent):  “I get it. It can feel overwhelming to have a big game and recital in the same week. That would make me feel stressed too. Let’s think of some ways we can help you get through this.”    5. Prioritize quality time    Parents today are pulled a million directions with tons of distractions. Driving to different activities, working, and managing a household can really put a damper on family time. Make sure to set time aside each day to talk to your children about how they are feeling, and make sure to express your feelings as well. No tv, no phones, just time to check in to show them that you care and are there to talk to.      6. Easy on the impulse    As parents, we have no patience for other people cursing, scolding, or putting their hands on our children. Yet when our kids are driving us up a wall, we tend to let these rules slide for ourselves. Tighten the reigns on your impulses by walking away for a few minutes when you’re about to lose your cool. If you feel like you’re about to snap, close your eyes and focus on taking some slow, deep breaths before you respond. Practice mindfulness exercises such as meditation or yoga to reduce stress and keep your thinking in the present.      7. Cultivate compassion   There are lots of meaningful ways that you can foster compassion in your family. Volunteer together at a soup kitchen, share responsibility for taking care of a pet, and talk about how others might feel in difficult situations.     Example : “There’s a new woman at my work. I think she might feel a little nervous about starting a new job, so I’m going to invite her to lunch to make her feel welcome.”     For more tips on increasing your child’s EQ, check out our blog on raising emotionally intelligent children     8. See a Specialist   Parenting isn’t easy, and it can be tough to manage all of your family’s needs while taking care of your own emotional health. If stress or depression is making it difficult for you to strengthen your EQ, our specialists at Variations Psychology can help.    Dr. Marta M. Shinn, Ph.D ., is a Child and Educational Psychologist. Dr. Shinn can evaluate your family’s emotional health and provide tools to strengthen emotional management and communication between parents, teens, and children.       
 
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       References:   Eanes, R. (2017). Become an Emotionally Intelligent Parent.  Creative Child . Retrieved online: http://www.creativechild.com/articles/view/become-an-emotionally-intelligent-parent/1#page_title  Eldemire, A. (2016). 3 Do’s and Don’ts for Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids.  The Gottman Relationship Blog.  The Gottman Institute. Retrieved online: https://www.gottman.com/blog/3-dos-donts-raising-emotionally-intelligent-kids/  Grose, Michael (2015). What it means to be an emotionally intelligent parent. Parentingideasclub.com.au    How to Cite This Blog Article:   Shinn, M.M. (2018). Am I an Emotionally Intelligent Parent? 6 Tips for Moms & Dads to Boost their EQ.    Psychologically Speaking .  [Variations Psychology blog post].  Retrieved from https://www.variationspsychology.com/blogs/am-i-an-emotionally-intelligent-parent-6-tips-for-moms-dads-to-boost-their-eq

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      “Hold Your PeePee!” 12 Tips to Help Your Child Manage Impulsivity     Impulsivity refers to a person’s inability to put their “mental brakes” on before they act. People with impulse control issues act on a whim without considering consequences, often resulting in them speaking or behaving inappropriately. Impulse control can be a struggle for many children and teenagers, but some have a harder time with it than others. With time and guidance, most kids learn ways to manage their impulses by the time they reach adulthood. If they don’t, however, impulsivity can have a long-term impact on their relationships, academic and career success, and emotional well-being.    So how can parents teach their kids to think before they act?       1. Think back to potty training    Children struggling with impulsivity often feel like they have no control over their actions. However, if they were capable of learning to use a toilet when they felt the urge to pee, they can learn to control other impulses as well. Remind your child or teen that when they were babies, they used to pee or poop whenever the urge hit, but with practice they learned to “hold their peepee” until they got to a bathroom. Your child’s mental process of potty training went something like this:      Becoming aware of the urge to use the bathroom    Recognizing bodily symptoms of needing to use the bathroom    Making a plan to get to a bathroom before having an accident    Getting to a toilet and releasing their urge to go      2. Apply it to today’s challenges    Just like they were capable of learning to control that physical impulse, they can also learn to control mental impulses such as yelling, hitting, or making reckless decisions. When they feel like acting out, encourage them to work through the same steps.     Becoming aware that some actions are impulsive and inappropriate      Example: “Hitting when I am angry is an impulsive behavior.”        Recognizing how their body reacts when they feel like acting impulsively      “When I feel like hitting, my fists clench, my chest tightens, and I feel like screaming.”        Making a plan to release their energy in an appropriate way       “I’m going to walk away and focus on my breathing instead of hitting my brother.”        Carrying out their plan by finding an appropriate way to react       3. Label feelings   Children and teens who don’t understand their emotions are more likely to express themselves impulsively. Teach your child to recognize feelings so they can express through calm words rather than hitting or lashing out. Discuss different emotions such as anger, sadness, confusion, joy, and fear. Let them know that having feelings is ok, but expressing them through inappropriate behaviors is not.     For more tips on empowering emotional intelligence in your child, click here.      4. Empower “self-talk”   Kids and teens who engage in calming self-talk are less likely to act impulsively. Encourage your child to talk to themselves out loud when they are feeling frustrated or anxious. Self-talk will help them learn to process and control emotions as they come up.    Example: “This is a long line but I have to patiently wait for my turn.”      5. Have them repeat directions   Impulsive kids and teens often rush into action before listening to directions. Help them battle this habit by having them repeat directions twice before they get started on a task – if your child is young, have them repeat directions to you. If you have a teen, encourage them to repeat directions to themselves before taking action. Also, consider if your child’s challenges with focus and staying on task may be a sign of a learning disability or ADHD.     Click here to learn Dr. Marta M. Shinn’s FOCUS skills to support children with attention difficulties      6. Focus on physical health   Research has shown that children and teens who struggle with impulse control tend to eat more, sleep less, and are not very physically active. Limit screen time and give your child lots of opportunities to run and play outside. Keep healthy, balanced foods on hand and don’t let them stay up all night. When your child’s physical health is supported, they’ll be less likely to lash out in emotional distress.      7. Delay gratification   All children benefit from learning to appreciate delayed gratification, meaning they must behave well  now  in order to receive a reward  later . Practicing delayed gratification can help them avoid temptations that lead to impulsive reactions. This concept also conditions them to stay persistent with tough tasks in school and work later in life. Teach delayed gratification by creating a reward system where they have to save up points or earn their reward over multiple days.     For more tips on fostering your child’s persistence, click here     8. Play “Impulse Control” Games   A fun way to teach self-control is to play games with your child that require impulsivity management to win. Games like Simon Says, Follow the Leader, and Red Light Green Light can help train a young child’s brain develop more self-control. Search online for “impulse control games for teens” to choose from a variety of activity books or board games designed to boost a teenager’s self-control. The best part is, your child will get quality time with you and they’ll have fun doing it!     9. Teach healthy anger management    Your child’s impulsive outbursts may be caused by low frustration tolerance. Learning how to manage anger can help your child deal with their emotions in healthy ways. Teach your child to pause and take slow, deep breaths when they are angry. Encourage them to go kick a ball rather than a person, take a walk around the house, or place themselves in a “calm down spot” before they react.      10. Provide rules & responsibilities   Set clear behavioral expectations and explain consequences for breaking rules before it happens. Understanding rules and consequences can help your child make informed choices about their behavior. You can also increase structure and accountability in your home by empowering your child with household responsibilities. This can be as simple as pairing socks as a kid or washing cars as a teen. As they grow, so should their responsibilities.     11. Praise patience   It can be easy to only acknowledge when your child is acting inappropriately, but make sure to give them lots of praise and attention when they sit quietly or react calmly when things don’t go their way. When your child understands what preferred behaviors looks like, they are more likely to keep doing them. Acknowledge when a child is being patient, acting calm, or waiting for the appropriate time to release their energy.      12. Don’t beat yourself up   It’s important to know that your child having impulsivity issues does not mean you are a bad parent. Many children are just naturally more prone to impulsivity than others for a variety of reasons. In some children, the part of the brain that controls impulses develops slower than others. The good news is, there is hope and a qualified specialist can teach your child ways to control their impulses, just like they learned to “hold their peepee!”    See a Mental Health Specialist   Whether you are concerned that your child or teen may need support with impulsivity, or if you are an adult who feels like you never learned how to manage your own impulses, our specialists at Variations can help.    Cynthia R. 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“Hold Your PeePee!” 12 Tips to Help Your Child Manage Impulsivity

All kids struggle with impulse control from time to time. But if your child seems to really have a hard time putting the “mental brakes” on before they lose their cool, this blog’s for you! Check out this week’s blog to learn 12 tried and true ways to boost your child’s impulse control.